Book: Boundaries (When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life) by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

In this book Boundaries, Dr. Henry Cloud and John Townsend use the Bible as the spiritual compass to guide us back to healthy boundaries that are Christ like. One of the main themes of this book is that our deepest need is to belong, to be in a relationship, to have a spiritual and emotional ‘home.’

In fact, the very nature of God is to be in a relationship: ‘God is love’ says 1 John 4:16. And this love is within a relationship – the caring, committed connection of one individual to another.

By reading this book you will learn what boundaries are, what they look like, how they are developed, and some common myths about setting and having boundaries. The authors cover a wide range of boundaries such as between you and your family, friends, spouse, children, work, your self, and God.

Learning how to say no can seem difficult at first but if you are ready to take control of your life and saw yes to a healthy, balanced lifestyle then this book is for you. Often, as Christians we focus so much on being loving and unselfish that we forget their own limits and limitations.

Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances — Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions — Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others — Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God’s will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator.

A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries are a “litmus test” for the quality of our relationships, and learning to set limits has to do with telling the truth.

And God is more concerned with our hearts than He is with our outward compliance… when we are afraid to say no (to other people), then our yes is compromised. When we say no to people and activities that are hurtful to us, we are protecting God’s investment. We each have only so much time and energy we can give out and this book provides incredible insight into why we behave the way we do, where habits come from, and how to have healthy boundaries our life.

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Book: The 5 Love Languages (The Secret to Love That Lasts) by Gary Chapman

thefivelovelanguagesbookFalling in love is easy, but staying in love – now that’s the challenge in marriage! So, how can you keep your relationship fresh and growing with all of the demands and conflicts of everyday life? In the book ‘The 5 Love Languages’, you’ll discover an approach to showing and receiving love that will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse. Also at the end of the book is a quiz you and your spouse can take to help you figure out their love language.

Marriages may be made in heaven, but they must be nurtured here on earth. The ‘5 Love Languages’ explains how people communicate love in different ways, and shares the wonderful things that happen when a husband and wife learn to speak each other’s language. Chapters are categorized by love language (Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch) and each one ends with simple steps to express a specific language to your spouse and guide your marriage in the right direction. This book is a wonderful investment for your marriage and your family!

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